Thursday, November 19, 2009

First Invitation



Today was an important milestone for me:  I was invited to play.

Dayton prefers to play alone.  He likes to drive his dump truck around the house at high speeds, color with markers, and play downstairs on his own.  I usually initiate together playtime myself, by introducing a new activity or by jumping in and joining him at whatever he is doing (like driving his cars across the floor).  My little one is a very independent child, and it never occurred to me that I had never been invited to play with him.

He has a little ballpit (shaped like a cozy coupe), which came with a bunch of different-colored plastic balls.  I took him downstairs today and gathered a bunch of those balls, to show him how to throw them around the room.  Our basement is unfinished - it has a cement floor and no walls, so it's the perfect playroom - lots of space and nothing to damage!

We had a lot of fun throwing the balls and chasing them across the floor.  I was teaching him colors, and we were trying to hit various objects, like his swing and his basketball hoop.  We were having a blast!

After a while, I stood up to go upstairs.  Dayton leapt to his feet, chased after me, and grabbed my hand.  He gave my hand a tug and looked up at me with his big blue eyes.

"Mom, balls."

And so I stayed, sniffling and holding back tears.  I was so proud to have been invited to stay.  I felt wanted, which, especially in Motherhood, is very different from feeling needed.  And a very special feeling, too.

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